Questions to get to know someone

Questions for getting to know someone closely.  Early tulpa might have trouble answering some of them, but they also provide a nice place to look up to, questions that are worth knowing the answer to.  Also great for getting to know someone!

I don't particularly like the article's tone, but the questions themselves go back to a study which has my praise.

www.wired.co.uk/news/archive/2011-11/08/how-to-find-love-in-45-mins?page=all/


The questions began simply enough:
- Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
- Would you like to be famous? In what way?
- Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
- What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?
- When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
- If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
- Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
- For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

- If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
- Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
- If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
- If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
- Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?
- What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

- What do you value most in a friendship?
- What is your most treasured memory?
- What is your most terrible memory?
- If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- What does friendship mean to you?
- What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
- How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?
- How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
- Make three true "we" statements each. For instance "We are both in this room feeling..."
- Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..."
- If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
- Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.
- Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
- When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
- Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
- What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
- If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?
- Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
- Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
- Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

- If you could choose the sex and physical appearance of your soon-to-be-born child, would you do it?
- Would you be willing to have horrible nightmares for a year if you would be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?
- While on a trip to another city, your spouse (or lover) meets and spends a night w/ an exciting stranger. Given they will never meet again, and you will not otherwise learn of the incident, would you want your partner to tell you about it?

Unique Questions!

Reblog Questionaire from
http://thelucidtulpamancer.tumblr.com/post/46811613062/hey-look-actual-unique-questions

Believe it or not, the lack of input on this blog has been somewhat draining.  It is strange, actually, because I have no less than 30 post topics with a sentence to a paragraph, but no desire to finish them.  Hopefully I'll have a writing binge at some point, regardless; at least one of the new topic enjoys writing (can't identify which yet).  More about them later, though ^-^

1. Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? Closed... No one wants to see in there.
2. Do you take the shampoos and conditioner bottles from hotel? When I remember, which is rarely.
3. Do you sleep with your sheets tucked in or out? I sleep without an upper sheet.
4. Have you ever stolen a street sign before? No... and I'm not sure whether I would...
5. Do you like to use post-it notes? Nope, but mostly because I never buy them.  When there is a pack around, they are put to use.
6. Do you cut out coupons but then never use them? I don't buy much of anything, so I never cut out coupons.
7. Would you rather be attacked by a big bear or a swarm of a bees? Bear, but it is a close tie.  Might be able to outrun a bear/ convince it you are no threat.  I have a 50% chance of being allergic to bees (we don't know yet) and they can't be reasonably outrun, but they can be scared off by hitting a hollow log.
8. Do you have freckles? Nope.
9. Do you always smile for pictures? No.  I fake when asked to, but it generally looks bad.  Therefore, I prefer that people take pictures of me smiling naturally, usually during conversation or due to proximity of a relationship.
10. What is your biggest pet peeve? The phrase "You can't REALLY believe that?!"
11. Do you ever count your steps when you walk? Yes.
12. Do you ever dance even if theres no music playing? Dance... nothing obvious, but I'll lock step to internal beat, and dance as I go through doors.
13. Do you chew your pens and pencils? Pens, but never pencils.  Or rather, nothing made of wood, only plastic.
14. How many people have you slept with this week? Zero.
15. What size is your bed? Twin in this room.  My normal bedroom has a Double
16. What is your Song of the week? Hmm... I rarely listen to single songs, preferring long albums or, more recently, hour mixes on Youtube.  This week has been dedicated to Chillstep.
17. Is it okay for guys to wear pink? Yes, although they should be careful of where they do it: public sentiment does not agree with me.
18. Do you still watch cartoons? Yes, primarily anime.
19. Whats your least favorite movie? I, personally, haven't seen any movies.  Of the movies in our memory... Recall says 'Whale Rider' stands out as something we hated, although we were young at the time and we don't remember anything more than the title.
20. Where would you bury hidden treasure if you had some? Assuming that I can use some of the treasure to pay for transportation costs, I'd bury it somewhere on my Aunt's multi-acre ranch in California.  I have a spot in mind, but I think I'll keep it secret.
21. If you're a girl, bra size? If you're a guy, pants size? Wish I had a bra size... pant size is 32-35.
22. What do you dip a chicken nugget in? Honey mustard.
23. What is your favorite food? Sushi.
24. What movies could you watch over and over and still love? V for Vendetta, Animusic 1 and 2... That's all I can think of.  Recall: "Saving Private Ryan, The Pianist, Ghost in the Shell.  There are more, but I can not access them currently."
25. Last person you kissed/kissed you? Bits/Jubilee
26. Were you ever a boy/girl scout? I spent a few months in high school, decided against a late join.
27. Would you ever strip or pose nude in a magazine? Sure.
28. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper? Thank you notes for Christmass.
29. Can you change the oil on a car? Yes, and the Oil filter too.
30. Ever gotten a speeding ticket? No.
31. Ever ran out of gas? No, but We've spent enough time with the needle under Empty to know exactly where the limit is on my tank.
32. Favorite kind of sandwich? Peanut Butter and Jelly.
33. Best thing to eat for breakfast? At this point, eating anything is better.  But I'd prefer a full meal with cereal, orange juice, 4 sausages, and soy milk.
34. What is your usual bedtime? anywhere from 8pm on a split sleep, 12 pm on a good day, and some time around noon the next day on a bad day.
35. Are you lazy? Very.
36. When you were a kid, what did you dress up as for Halloween? Usually just wore my martial arts outfit and strapped my sword to my back.
37. What is your Chinese astrological sign?  Goat (Yin Metal)
38. Are you horny? ... Lets just say No and move on.
39. Do you have any magazine subscriptions? Nope.
40. Which are better legos or lincoln logs? Legos.  Lincoln logs don't have enough variety to make serious architecture.
41. Are you stubborn? Depends entirely on the issue.
42. Who is better...Leno or Letterman? Colbert
43. Ever watch soap operas? Nope
44. Are you afraid of heights? I get vertigo, but what I'm afraid of is dying.
45. Do you sing in the car? Yes, often.
46. Do you sing in the shower? No, showers are for meditation.
47. Do you dance in the car? ... How would one do that?
48. Ever used a gun? Yes.
49. Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer? 8 months ago.
50. Do you think musicals are cheesy? Depends on the musical.
51. Is Christmas stressful? Yes.
52. Ever eat a pierogi? Yup.
53. Favorite type of fruit pie? I hate pie, except for pumpkin, which isn't a fruit.  I guess cinnamon apple that is really jellified is okay.
54. Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid? Sammy wanted to be a Professional Imagineer, regardless of what position that put him in.
55. Do you believe in ghosts? No.
56. Ever have a Deja-vu feeling? Often, and strongly
57. Take a vitamin daily? Whenever there is one... which is subject to when we remember to buy them.
58. Wear slippers? No.
59. Wear a bath robe? Nah, just strip at the shower.
60. What do you wear to bed? Whatever I'm wearing, or nothing, depending on the time and whether it is worth being comfortable.
61. First concert? 2 weeks old, unknown band in California.
62. Wal-Mart, Target or Kmart? Kmart, but I have only been in a Target a few times.
63. Nike or Adidas? Adidas.
64. Cheetos Or Fritos? ...Fritos, I guess?
65. Peanuts or Sunflower seeds? Sunflower seeds
66. Ever hear of the group Tres Bien? We have now.
67. Ever take dance lessons? No.
68. Is there a profession you picture your future spouse doing? hmm... no, actually.
69. Can you curl your tongue? Yep!
70. Ever won a spelling bee? We've never entered one.
71. Have you ever cried because you were so happy?  Nearly.  I wish we could.
72. Own any record albums? No, that is my father's domain.
73. Own a record player? No.
74. Regularly burn incense? No... I might at some point when I need to work on olfactory imagination.
75. Ever been in love? ... Define love.  I maintain multiple close relationships, all of which involve communication, understanding, and mutual improvement, some of which involve sex.
76. Who would you like to see in concert? Dub FX
77. What was the last concert you saw? Anberlin.
78. Hot tea or cold tea? Hot.
79. Tea or coffee? Tea.
80. Sugar or snickerdoodles? O.O that is the hardest decision ever... I love partially-caramelized cane sugar... but a good snickerdoodle beats it.
81. Can you swim well? Nope, no buoyancy
82. Can you hold your breath without holding your nose? Easily and for multiple minutes, given a chance to meditate beforehand.
83. Are you patient? depends on how distracting the environment is.  If it is distracting, I am not.  If it is calm, I can wait.  This is generally the case for introverts.
84. DJ or band, at a wedding? Band, something with a saxophone and guitar.
85. Ever won a contest? Yes.
86. Ever have plastic surgery? No... :/
87. Which are better black or green olives? Black.
88. Can you knit or crochet? I can do some very basic knitting.
89. Best room for a fireplace? Outside the house, with a large area that isn't flammable so that the fireworks don't set anything else ablaze.  and so that the fire pouring from it doesn't both anything.  Really, if the bricks aren't near melting in the first month, I'm doing it wrong.
90. Do you want to get married? Yes.  Preferably a Line Marriage (see Heinlein).
91. Who was your HS crush? None, we weren't attracted to people at that time.
92. Do you cry and throw a fit until you get your own way? Not in the past 10 years.
93. Do you have kids? No.
94. Do you want kids? Yes
95. Whats your favorite color? ... Yellow?
96. Do you miss anyone right now? Every relationship that moved away... and all of those I've yet to see in person.